Living carefree is not easy, it actually is one of the hardest things to do, but it is possible! I mean probably not 100% possible, there are things that are going to happen in life that are going to worry you or that you simply are not going to like, but living with a little less stress can definitely be a good thing.
I have made 4 big changes to my ways of thinking that have helped me live carefree. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life, and I keep finding ways to make myself even happier believe it or not.
Now, why should you listen to me? I would be wondering the same thing.
When I was 18, I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and depression. I had no idea how to deal with it, so I immediately turned to medication, which put me in an even worse place. I felt like life was no longer worth living and as if I had no one in my corner. I was as low as I could possibly go and I did not think that feeling was ever going to end. I was wrong.
If I can do it, you can do it too. I am a completely normal 21 year old girl. A girl who has struggled and found happiness in the end. It is possible.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Easier said than done, I know. This was probably the hardest aspect of my life to change, because I used to worry about EVERYTHING.
If it won’t matter in a week, don’t worry about it now.
This is the mantra I am constantly repeating to myself, because if I was still sweating every single little thing that went wrong in my life, I would be a very sad 21 year old girl. You need to take care of whatever is wrong in the moment and move on.
Moving on is so important and I truly believe that time heals everything. So whether you are going through a tough breakup, failed a super hard test, or upset one of your friends, do what you can to make things better, and then move on. If there is nothing you can do about it, move on…which leads me into my next topic.
Do not worry about things that are out of your hands.
I am still so guilty of this and I am working on it every single day. I tend to take other’s problems and put them on myself, mainly because I care about others and want to help. I am starting to get better, but I still find myself upset on a Friday night because my friend is dealing with her alcoholic roommate or a family member dealing with a crazy significant other.
I have started to learn that I can listen and give advice, but I am not the one dealing with the situation, so after the conversation is over, I cannot harp on it. I have to try and focus on the good in their lives, and the success of those I care about.
Look to the future, not the past.
It is so unhealthy to worry about things that have happened in the past. You need to move on to the future, and worry about what is going on in the present.
Harping on things that have already happened is unnecessary, because that is the past, there is nothing you can do to change what happened. So…
You will make mistakes. We all make mistakes. Some will be big, some will be small, but do not regret any of them.
Regretting what happens or what you do is only going to cause yourself to become your largest critic. Learn. Learn from what you do wrong, you will be so much happier than if you regret everything you do. Learn and move on.
So I am sure you are seeing a pattern here. Moving on and not harping on the things that may happen in your life will keep you happy.
Why live a negative life when you can live happy? Right?
and never forget, positive vibes only my people!